DadblogUK writes from the heart. And wears his heart on his sleeve. We suspect we’re mixing our metaphors, but you get the gist. In this insightful post he shares how becoming a dad has made him the man he is today.
Becoming a father was life changing. It changed my friendships and personal relationships, my interests and severely reduced the amount of time I get to spend relaxing. I’m sure any parent will relate to this. Having children is a huge sacrifice. It’s not, however, all bad. Listed below are 10 ways I think being a dad has changed me for the better. I encourage you to have a read and please, leave a few examples yourself at the end.
Made me less selfish – Come on, we all have a selfish streak. As a dad, however, I have to think about my children and not myself. The example that springs to mind is making financial sacrifices so that money can be set aside for my daughters’ future. They may be very young, but university fees and mortgage deposits are expensive, very expensive indeed!
Made me realise I’m not immortal – I know my family needs me. I therefore take a keener interest in my health and have become a bit more risk averse to ensure I stay alive and healthy.
Made me more tolerant – Whether it be a glass of orange squash being tipped all over my clothes or taking an accidental kick to the genitals, I just roll with it. I’m also much more tolerant of other people’s children and crying babies than I used to be. Oh, and yes, I did recently take a proper kick to the balls while at a swimming lesson with my eldest.
Keeps me youthful – My mother persuaded me to put this one on the list. She swears that having children and grandchildren has forced her to keep up with the times. I can see exactly what she means; it’s not so much thinking as a child but keeping up with their education, the technology they use and so on. It definitely keeps you youthful.
Got me into writing and blogging – Being a parent, in particular being a dad that’s the main carer for his children, inspired me to start writing again. I had previously been a journalist but hadn’t written anything of value for years. I’m no Martin Amis (…thankfully), but I like to think I can string a half-decent sentence together and it’s a talent I shouldn’t waste.
Given me greater respect for my parents – Having children has made me appreciate my parents in a way I never did before. I can understand what they were trying to do with me when I was growing up. It may have driven me to distraction at the time, but now I see they were just trying to do the right thing.
Sparked an interest in gender rights issues – There’s a double whammy here. First of all, I became the main carer for my kids and have to get on in a world primarily set up for women. Secondly, I have two daughters and I don’t want them to be held back because of their gender and I never want them beholden to a man. Oh it’s a confusing world I live in!
Made me realise small things bring great joy – The simplest thing can make my daughter laugh and laugh and laugh. It’s a delight to watch. Both my wife and I always feel delighted when our oldest child comes home with a ‘house point’ from school or receives a certificate for doing good work. I never thought I’d get quite so emotional about these things, but I do.
Made me creative – I don’t mean creative in that I sit down and make models or draw with my kids. I’ll freely admit it that’s not a strong point of mine. Being a dad has forced me to be creative in finding ways to play and make up stories. I’ve also had to be creative in the ways I can educate my kids and help them develop and also to inspire them so they want to speak, read and write.
Made me learn stuff – How can you explain the solar system to an inquisitive young mind without knowing about it yourself? I know more about it now than I ever have done. Over the past couple of years my dinosaur recognition skills have also improved hugely.