Finally…Baby Number Two
Pregnancy for me has never been easy, I don’t hide the fact that I have suffered five heart-breaking miscarriages, but I would like to share my journey with you all, if you don’t mind?
Back before Emmy’s Daddy and I were married I fell pregnant accidently but miscarried at six weeks. This spurred us on to actually book our wedding and do what we had talked about for a while – start a family. So we married in 2007 and started our journey onto parenthood in 2008 – or so we thought. After a few months I was pregnant, over-joyed and excited. We told friends and family, unable to keep our little secret, but once again at six weeks I miscarried.
I am not one to be beaten so researched, investigated and started taking vitamins and Baby Asprin and four months later I was pregnant again; this time I was sent for an early scan at five week due to bleeding but all was fine. We were then scanned again at seven weeks and saw baby’s heart beat. All was well so we told our family, and all continued to go well and at 12 weeks we went for another scan. Then our world collapsed when we found out the baby had died at around nine weeks and I’d cruelly suffered a missed miscarriage, so was booked in for an operation to remove the failed pregnancy.
I don’t mind admitting the next few months were really dark months for me – I didn’t eat properly, I started drinking lots, wasn’t sleeping and cried lots. However I was referred to see a consultant at my local hospital so pulled myself together, with the help of some wonderful online virtual friends who I met through various miscarriage groups, and was sent off for tests. I joked that I was a human pin-cushion as there were so many vials of blood taken. All of our tests came back normal which was disappointing as there was nothing they could do. We were then referred to St. Mary’s in Paddington which has a fantastic reputation for their treatment and investigations into recurrent miscarriage.
But, we never made the appointment as before the date came through I was pregnant again – with my lucky number four, Emmy. This time I was scanned every 2 weeks until 12 weeks and before Emmy was born I had had nine scans. Emmy was born at 40 + 11 weeks (yes – I cooked her too well) on 4th Feb 2011.
Now once you have had your first child, everyone just assumes that another will follow shortly after – even those who knew my history still couldn’t stop themselves from asking that question. It actually scared the life out of me as I know how hard it can be, and I admit I would have loved Emmy to have a brother or sister.
Well it happened – I fell pregnant again last May but miscarried again at six weeks. This time it did seem easier – I just got on with it, cuddled Emmy, dusted myself down and carried on as normal. Over Christmas Paul (my Hubby) and I had that chat again and decided as Emmy was almost two we should just keep trying until another miracle stuck – I was pregnant again in January and miscarried at five weeks this time. BUT, I found out I was pregnant this Valentines Day with baby number seven and I’m pleased to say that baby is still there. We had an early scan at eight weeks and I’m currently 10 + 5 weeks pregnant with another miracle. Our next scan is this week and everything is crossed that all will be well then – I’ve been put on anti-sickness tablets which can only be a good sign.
Wish us luck!
Having gone through the pain of a missed miscarriage, I count each of my children a miracle. Those first few weeks are the longest. Good luck!
Hi,
Having suffered 4 miscarriages between my 1st and 2nd child, I can completely empathise and sympathise with you. I really do wish you every success with your pregnancy and hope you get your (obviously much wanted) second child in about 6 months x
First of all i would like to say i think it is great that you are sharing your story and i really do wish you so much luck in your pregnancy and happiness. I have everything crossed for you too!
I have a one year old Oscar and i had a missed miscarriage in Feb this year, i had an instinct through out that the baby would not survive. I have been so down since, always putting on a front, but Oscar is helping me through it so much, i am so grateful i have him!
Reading your story has made me realise that i will get through this and hopefully i will be pregnant again soon just like you!!
I really do hope all goes well for you.
xx
Just want to say good luck and hope that everything goes well with the rest of your pregnancy.
So exicited for you, i totally understand where you are coming from, i miscarraiged 3 weeks ago at 8 weeks, this is my 3 miscarraige, thou do have 3 healthy children. I lost my first 2 miscarraiges after my 1st child in 2001 and 2006. Both were miscarraged at 12 weeks after having scans and finding there was no heartbeat. I went onto have my 2nd and 3rd child in 2008 and 2010. And then miscarraged this year. I put this down to my age of being 43 an older mum and would love another 1 but i think im leaving it late now. I hope all goes well and look forward to reading your comments x
How inspirational is this story!? Wow! I’m sure the past has been a cruel emotional rollercoaster and at times you have felt so down. But instead of this becoming a story about the sad you have turned this into a happy story showing there is light at the end of the tunnel! A total inspiration to anyone who has suffered miscarriages or is having any kind of trouble concieving. I wish every woman was as strong as you and your husband!
Hi
I had my little surprise miracle in 2008 and have suffered 2 miscarriages since, this gives me hope. I hope everything works out for you x
you are amazing! What beautiful strength you have, my heart aches as i read your blog, i can only imagine your pain. But i know the joy you share with your babies. I wish you all the best on your journey to being a mum of two well cooked earth babies as well as a strong angel mummy x
Having 1 miscarriage is hard enough never mind everything you have been through. Good luck I have everything crossed for you xxx
I now have 2 gorgeous children but my first pregnancy ended almost 3 years ago with a stillbirth at 39 weeks. So whilst I can’t imagine what multiple miscarriages are like I have a very good understanding of loss. I think about my gorgeous boy every day & thank my lucky stars for my 2 living children as in 7 months time you will too!! Good luck x
I’m so sorry for your loses. I can totally sympathise with you, its such a heartbreaking experience. I had 4 miscarriages 1 ectopic where they removed my tube and then got referred to St Mary’s in Paddington where they discovered I have APS (sticky blood) I found out I was pregnant again for the 6th time, they immediately put me on 150mg of Aspirin and Clexane injections which I had to take for the duration of the pregnancy. I gave birth to my miracle baby boy in 2010. We’ve been trying for number 2 since with no luck until 8 weeks ago when I found out I was pregnant again for the 7th time. Unfortunately this is also an ectopic pregnancy but thankfully has not ended in surgery. Life can be so cruel. I am so grateful for my little boy.
I really hope this works out for you and that little one holds on real tight for you. xx
Many congratulations! I wish you every success for a continuing healthy pregnancy.
Hi i wish u all the luck u need its heartbreaking going through a miscarriage i miscarried the 13th feb 2012 i was 15 + 6 weeks pregnant & gave birth to a baby boy weighing just 100 grammes fully formed & breathing when he came out but unfortunately passed away 20 mins after birth im still heartbroken n
Your truly inspirational! Speaking out about such loss, I found out I was pregnant in October 2010 but sadly miscarried in November and fell pregnant rather quickly and went on to have a beautiful baby boy in August 2011! I felt so blessed but at the same time heartbroken! I have 2 girls also! I love my family more than anything and wish you all the love and happiness you deserve xxxxxx
I wish i could give you a hug! You are one brave cookie. I have just turned 21 and a few months ago i found out i had had a miscarriage. This was my first pregnancy. I was meant to have my 12 week scan on the tuesday but i started to bleed on the sunday before hand and was booked into an emergency scan on the monday. I had only just announced to people on that friday i was pregnany and then found out on the monday i had lost my baby. Even tho i was 11 + 4 when i found out, they said i lost my baby at around 9+5 (I was 9+3 when had my dating scan so only a few days after!). I still cry everyday because of it. You are one very brave lady, you deserve a medal. Glad your miracle Emmy is safe and well and hope your 2nd miracle is safe and well too. Good luck. xxxxxxxxx
Thanks for sharing your story with us all and I really hope that everything goes smoothly with this pregnancy for you.
Having had 2 missed miscarriages at 12 weeks, third pregnancy resulting in a now 18month old toddler, I think you are a very brave individual who is due some good luck!
All the best and I’m sure the sick feeling is a good sign xx
I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world, It is heart breaking going through what you have been through, I too had a miscarriage at 21 weeks to a beautiful, fully formed baby boy, the pain has no words, but we have to stay positive and believe that everything will be ok next time…God bless xx
Good luck! It is amazing that you are sharing your story. I have everything crossed for you for the coming months
Xx
I had 2 healthy boys then decided to go for a third. I then had 2 miscarriages, an ectopic which was surgically removed at 6 weeks, after we’d seen the heartbeat, and then 3 more ectopics, one of which was treated with a chemotherapy drug.
3 years down the line we decided to have a change of direction and became foster carers for babies and pre school children. 2 years in we were fostering our 4th Newborn and decided that we couldn’t let her go so applied to adopt her. She legally became our daughter just after her 3rd birthday, and she made our family whole.
Getting pregnant was never a issue, and after the first 2 trouble free pregnancies I expected to just have my third easily. All babies are very precious, but I certainly hold closer my 3rd miracle who came after a lot of heartache, medical procedures and then the long adoption journey.
I wish all of you who have suffered losses the very best of luck with a successful pregnancy, and for those who have easy pregnancies (as with my first 2) – please remember that life is indeed a very precious miracle.
Good Luck All. X
Thank you for sharing this story, it helps those of us going through a similar fate to know that we are not alone.
I myself have suffered 3 miscarriages, but am now 25 weeks pregnant with lucky number 4!! We also had all the tests done after the 3rd which all came back normal, so can completely sympathise with you in that respect as well. I knew with all 3 previous pregnancies as soon as I found out, that something wasnt right and they wouldnt make it. With this one though, I knew everything would be alright.
To those out there going through what I have gone through, all I can say is keep your chin up and dont stop trying. If you feel you need a break though, take it as it could be your body saying that it needs a little time to repair itself.
I know your pain very well as i have had 2 miscarriges but now i have my two beautiful kids. I wish you every luck in the world with your pregnancy x
Hi there, It’s absolutely devastating when a lady has a miscarriage and really wanted that baby and had already fell in love with it. I know. I miscarriaged at around 9 weeks and it broke my heart. I had full contractions and miscarriaged. So painful and that experience changed my life as I thought I would never have children but I now have a gorgeous little boy who I adore and so does my husband. I wish you all the luck and my fingers are crossed for you. Loads of love x x
hi i would love to wish u all the luck in the world !!! i too can sympathise with what uv gone through i had 5 misscarriges before i finally had my gorgeous wee boy dillon in 2008,i too thought once id been through a full term pregnancy that another one would be easy but unfortunatly i sufferd 2 more losses at the end of last year ,im trying all the usual stuff to help and also holistic therapies but no signs yet . i got told when the tested me at my 3rd misscarige that a couple of my chromosomes had defects so it was just a case of pot luck but i aint giving up hope . i count my blessings every day i wake up and see my sons smiling face x
I’m so sorry for your losses. This is such an inspirational story. My partner and I found out I was pregnant last December, so excited, we told EVERYONE. At 6 weeks, we lost the baby. It was so hard for us. We’d never really planned the baby but losing one made us really want a baby. At the end of February this year, we found out we were expecting again. I got so ill and was terrified that I’d lose it again. I’m proud to announce that after my dating scan, I now know I’m expecting TWINS!!! My two little miracles.
Hope everything works out really well 
Good luck with your pregnancy